Relationships jealousy is an issue that many couples experience in their relationships. I will be covering what this is, how to understand it, and what can be done about it.
The place where I would like to start at looking at this issue of jealousy in relationships, is to touch on an area where I think people can be confused between jealousy and possessiveness.
What can be interpreted as relationships jealousy in many situations has nothing to do with jealousy at all.
It is to do with circumstances where men are holding power over, dominating, and controlling women.
Others can interpret certain behavior, such as men contacting their spouses/partners/wives, on a basis more than necessary, as an indication of issues of jealousy in relationships.
As well as being seen this way, the explanations that are given as a means of understanding such behavior, are unhelpful as well.
It can be explained as an issue about men being insecure, or lacking in confidence in the relationship, leaving them with relationships jealousy feelings.
It can also be suggested men are being vigilant or protective, and seeing this as an another issue of jealousy in the relationship, rather than as a way of controlling and dominating.
It is important to be clear about this as it can be a really big problem for anyone who is on the receiving end of this in a relationship, as distinct from being a relationships jealousy issue .
There are other areas to look at in relationships involving jealousy, such as times when either partner may have some interaction with a person of the opposite sex in various contexts.
This could be at a party, some social gathering, or even a work situation. Because there is a widespread belief that it is not possible to have platonic relationships with a person of the opposite sex, this often leads to bouts of jealousy in a lot of relationships.
It is thought that a sexual relationship of some nature is inevitable, and a feeling of suspicion of unfaithfulness, and hence relationships jealousy, is a predictable outcome.
All I can say is, of course it is possible to have healthy platonic relationships that involves affection but is not sexual and there is no need for jealousy in such relationships.
There are some questionable ways of understanding jealousy in relationships that are put forward by some people who are considered to be knowledgeable in this area.
Some refer to jealous types. This is unhelpful as it suggests this is how you are, it is part of your makeup, and this is how you are going to be, you don’t have any choice.
We are not defined by whatever problems we might experience. If you experience jealousy in your relationships, it is not a fixed thing, you can do something about it. It is not part of who you are.
Another explanation I have come across is that jealousy is instinctive. That is to say it is natural or automatic, it is a fixed pattern of behavior. We don’t have any choice. Jealousy in relationships is unavoidable.
All other animals operate this way. Our species is the only one with the capacity to reason, therefore, we have the ability to choose.
If we say jealousy in relationships is instinctive, it means we are not responsible for what we do, as we don’t have a choice.
If we happened to end up in court, as a consequence of something we did out of jealousy, I don’t think that explanation is going to hold much water.
It is these types of explanations that keep people stuck with issues around jealousy in relationships.
The reality is, if you have a good relationship with all the characteristics of healthy relationships, then you are able to deal with any issues you may experience.
It is very unlikely that, jealousy in relationships, would ever be a big issue between you.
There is more to be found in my ebook,”How to Have An Extraordinary Relationship”
Do join our community! Every couple of weeks I send out a little newsletter with some great relationship tips. Just sign up with your email address (your name is optional), and it will come straight to you.
When you contact Relationship Tips for You, your message comes directly to me. I enjoy hearing from my visitors, and welcome your message.
If there are any particular issues you would like me to go into, or expand on , I would be only too happy to do so. All I would ask is that you be very specific about what you would like me to respond to.
I should ad my goal in what I'm presenting here on my website, is to help as many people as possible, to have an extraordinary relationship. I am passionate about achieving this as I know there are any number of people who are missing out on what is possible, and with the relationship tips I am providing, it can make all the difference to their lives!
Return from Relationships Jealousy to Trust in Relationships