Overcoming Relationship Breakup
When thinking about overcoming relationship breakup, there are many viewpoints to consider depending on the range of circumstances associated with the breakup.
There is a broad assortment of situations to look at, and responses to each one are going to be very different. Let’s see what we can come up with by focusing on just one of the many situations people deal with when overcoming relationship breakup.
Possibly one of the most difficult is when you are not the one who wants to end the relationship. As far as you are concerned you are satisfied with how things are and you have no thoughts about looking at ways to end relationships.
This is not an uncommon occurrence and often the person on the receiving end of such a decision is totally taken by surprise and not aware of any serious relationship problem.
It is not unusual for this to happen when couples have been together for a long time and one partner, almost by chance, gets involved with someone else. It is possible it can be an outcome of couples drifting without being fully aware of any serious relationship problem.
Overcoming relationship breakup when you are not the person involved with someone else, includes dealing with a lot of relationship questions.
Firstly, your life has been turned upside down and you find yourself in a state of affairs you had never given any thought to, and are completely unprepared for, and have no idea how you are going to cope with overcoming relationship breakup.
You experience a mixture of feelings - anger, resentment, bitterness. You feel hurt, upset and rejected, and you are totally devastated. You have lost your bearings, going round in circles in a thick fog that shows no sign of lifting, it seems so unbelievable.
Overcoming a relationship breakup such as this seems overwhelming to you. You feel so alone and have no idea how you are going to get on with you life or go about handling relationship problems such as this.
It is at times like this that it is so important to be able to rely on a close friend or friends, or supportive family members, to be able to share how you are feeling.
It can also be at such times you really find out who your friends are, or not, as the case may be. The same can be said for supportive family members when overcoming relationship breakup.
Failing to have your needs met in either of those ways, it is at times like this that a good counselor can be helpful. If you choose this path it can be best to have someone recommended to you.
It might seem, at this stage, you are never going to arrive at the point of overcoming relationship breakup because of the pain you are experiencing.
I am reminded of listening to the author of “Shantaram”, Gregory David Roberts, who I was privileged to hear speak and to meet, and whose book is a masterpiece.
The rights to his book to make a movie have been bought by Johny Depp, who will play the lead role.
At various stages when he was imprisoned, he was subjected to the most severe torture.
During his talk, one of the things he said was that as human beings there is no pain that we can experience that is too much to bear.
His point being we have an amazing capacity to endure pain regardless of how excruciating it is, and we can survive and get on with our lives.
So no matter how unlikely it may seem, you will get to overcoming your relationship breakup and the pain you are going through, and be able to get on with your life.
In fact you will be the richer, because of the range of feelings you have been through, and be in a position to have more understanding and compassion for other people’s experiences when they are getting over a relationship.
So rather than see this as being a tragic experience, you can put another light on it and see that overcoming relationship breakup can be a positive life experience because of the many lessons you have learnt in getting over a relationship.
Who knows what lies ahead, it may mean you will follow a direction in life you would have not done otherwise, and you will be very pleased with yourself.
There is more in my eBook “How to Have An Extraordinary Relationship.”
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