Communication Problems In Relationships



Communication problems in relationships is one of the biggest issues people have in their relationships. It would be identified as one of the most common problems in a relationship.

My plan here is to identify the various aspects of communication problems that occur in relationships. I am then going to indicate how these issues can be dealt with by a lot of people in ways that are not helpful.

Communication problems in relationships is one of the biggest issues people have in their relationships. It would be identified as one of the most common problems in a relationship.

My plan here is to identify the various aspects of communication problems that occur in relationships. I am then going to indicate how these issues can be dealt with by a lot of people in ways that are not helpful.

Then I’m going to give another view of what happens and why and how we can look at it in a way where we can arrive at a solution to relationship communication problems.

For a start let us look at what we mean by communication. In the case of people in a relationship, it covers a range of contact between couples that can be categorized in various ways.

It can be connection, association, relations, socializing, dialogue, talk, conversation or discussion to name a few. All of these would encompass the activities where people would encounter communication problems in relationships.

The relationship problems people would come across in this regard would be categorized in such ways that would include: misunderstanding, misinterpreting and not listening.

This would include a whole range of things such as disagreements, differences of opinion, disputes, quarrels, arguments, altercations, squabbles, rows, clashes, tiffs etc.

Overall, the communication problems in relationships would generally be boiled down to be classified as not listening.

A common way of dealing with this is to get people together and have one person say certain things to the second person, and then have that person repeat what the first person said. They then swap and perform the same activity again.

This is done a few times and people can feel they have made progress with their relationship communication problems as they learn to concentrate on what their partners have said.

They feel good about this and think they have solved the communication problems in relationships they were experiencing on their own.

Before long they find they encounter the same relationship problems they were having previously and wonder why. They may repeat the techniques they learnt at the sessions they attended.

They put these into practice for a while and once again they feel they have solved the problem.

It is not long before things slip back to the way they were formerly, and they feel frustrated and defeated. They soon forget about the method they learned as it doesn’t seem to achieve the results they want, and they fall back into the old pattern of relationship communication problems.

By this stage I hope I’ve got you wondering about how is it possible to find a solution to the communication problems in relationships if the approach I’ve mentioned does not seem to work.

Before I give an explanation that I believe can make all the difference so that no couple has any issues with this relationship problem, there are a few things I need to say.

As a counselor, one of the most frequent expressions I have heard from women is: “he never listens to me”, followed by “I never know what he is thinking or feeling.”

I’m sure many of you have heard women make those comments at some stage. Women are not listened to in other situations as well, not only in relationships. I know many women can tell you they have experienced this.

It is not difficult to detect in social gatherings or work situations if you choose to make some observations.

Are you ready for a helpful explanation to the communication problems in relationships?

Some of you may not be prepared to listen to this, and I guess all I can say to that is - hey what’s new!

There is only one way that makes sense to me as a way of understanding this huge problem. It is one of the outcomes of the overwhelming conditioning we get as males, that we are superior to women.

If we allow ourselves to be dictated to by this indoctrination, it can lead to these communication problems in relationships.

This does not necessarily happen on a conscious level, but if we haven’t thought about it and rejected the programming, it is most likely we will act in accordance with it.

What happens on an unconscious level, and is manifested in how we behave, are such thoughts as, “who do you think you are, you are not on my level, I don’t have to listen to you, you are one of those inferior lot I can treat with disdain if I want to, because you don’t count, and it doesn’t matter how I treat you.”

The same sentiments are associated with the lack of expression of thoughts and feelings.

My view is that the only way communication problems in relationships can be solved is to recognize each person in the relationship is on the same level. We are equal. No one is superior or inferior to the other.

Listening, acknowledging, respecting, connecting, sharing etc., etc., is an expression of this equality.

This allows you to have the relationship so many people have no idea is possible, enabling you to have a richer, fuller and more satisfying life. If you want that, the choice is yours.

There is more in my eBook “How to Have An Extraordinary Relationship.”

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